Monday, May 25, 2009

The Anger Sharks are Swimming

Before I start I need to say.......Goosfraba. Maybe again...Goosfraba....Yes, today the anger sharks were swimming in my head, a line from Anger Management. LOL! It has come to my attention in the last few weeks that people actually get mad, annoyed, positive people. My question is "WHY?" Why on earth would the fact that a person is living their life as positive as possible, tick someone off or annoy them? Actually I know the answer to this. In therapy I have been discussing this with my counselor mainly because I was under the assumption that living positively would inspire people. While that is true to some point there is always those few who choose to look at it as annoying. Between my therapist and I we have come up with an answer to this question. It is quite simple and quite obvious. You know that saying, misery loves company? When I look at either the lifestyle of the annoyed person or maybe the fact that they are simply having a bad day, I can see that this has nothing to do with me or the person who is living positively. That annoyed or ticked off person is simply not happy. Whether it be stress, their health, something in their life that is making them unhappy, it is all because of the place that they are currently in in their own life. Misery does love company. So if you are listening to someone complain about how miserable they are and it brings you down to their level, you are right where they want you. When you are living positively a negative person cannot bring you down with them. Of course this annoys them. And, there may be a slight bit of jealousy or the fact that they may be envious that they cannot be in the positive place that you are. Then there are those who are just actually comfortable with being miserable. (You know, those who complain but never do anything to change the situation.) Goosfraba!

No matter what anyone thinks of your life, it is none of their business. And, if anyone is to complain, criticize or judge you, it will only end up hurting them in the long run. I have chosen to live my life as positive as possible. I have made choices to better myself and the lives of my children. Whether it is reading books, going to therapy, making myself healthier, whatever, it is all the perfect choice for me. Those who are my true friends have seen the change in me and have embraced the positive person I have become. My therapist has complimented on the huge change she sees in me and knows that because of my attitude I will accomplish great things and handle stress so much easier than someone who is negative. What may seem a crappy situation to a negative person, they may feel like they are drowning. However to a positive person in the same crappy situation, they can see a way to stay afloat and know better things are to come. Me, well my analogy for my life right now is this: I feel like I am jumping out of an airplane. The "AHHH" when you first jump, is over and not so bad. Right now I am floating in the air sometimes going to the right, sometimes to the left. Every once in a while I feel like I am suddenly falling fast, but it goes away quickly and I am back to floating. What keeps me soaring is knowing that I will have a soft landing when it is my time to fall and I will fall slowly and safely. My therapist LOVES this analogy. I am surrounded by so many friends and family who support every decision I make. Whether they agree with me or not, it doesn't matter. They see me happy and staying positive and that is all that matters to them.

I could sit here and say that I apologize for annoying people with my positive outlook on life...but I am not. How can I be sorry for something that I am doing to better myself and the people around me? If you are annoyed, then you need to take a good hard look at yourself. Are you honestly happy? If you aren't, then change it. Do not take out your misery on someone who is happy. It will only bite you in the butt in the long run and cause you end up alone and more miserable than before. Embrace the happiness in others and be grateful for it. They may end up teaching you a valuable lesson.

I am thankful for:
my true friends who do not judge me or criticize me
my family for supporting every decision I make
those who consider me an inspiration to them
open mindedness
being surrounded by only positive people
The Secret
my therapist
my positive attitude and outlook on life
the get-together with Jer and my families today
my neighbors
the health and happiness of my children, family and friends
all negativity being erased from me and my life
my health
my life