Before I start I need to say.......Goosfraba. Maybe again...Goosfraba....Yes, today the anger sharks were swimming in my head, a line from Anger Management. LOL! It has come to my attention in the last few weeks that people actually get mad, annoyed, frustrated...whatever...at positive people. My question is "WHY?" Why on earth would the fact that a person is living their life as positive as possible, tick someone off or annoy them? Actually I know the answer to this. In therapy I have been discussing this with my counselor mainly because I was under the assumption that living positively would inspire people. While that is true to some point there is always those few who choose to look at it as annoying. Between my therapist and I we have come up with an answer to this question. It is quite simple and quite obvious. You know that saying, misery loves company? When I look at either the lifestyle of the annoyed person or maybe the fact that they are simply having a bad day, I can see that this has nothing to do with me or the person who is living positively. That annoyed or ticked off person is simply not happy. Whether it be stress, their health, something in their life that is making them unhappy, it is all because of the place that they are currently in in their own life. Misery does love company. So if you are listening to someone complain about how miserable they are and it brings you down to their level, you are right where they want you. When you are living positively a negative person cannot bring you down with them. Of course this annoys them. And, there may be a slight bit of jealousy or the fact that they may be envious that they cannot be in the positive place that you are. Then there are those who are just actually comfortable with being miserable. (You know, those who complain but never do anything to change the situation.) Goosfraba!
No matter what anyone thinks of your life, it is none of their business. And, if anyone is to complain, criticize or judge you, it will only end up hurting them in the long run. I have chosen to live my life as positive as possible. I have made choices to better myself and the lives of my children. Whether it is reading books, going to therapy, making myself healthier, whatever, it is all the perfect choice for me. Those who are my true friends have seen the change in me and have embraced the positive person I have become. My therapist has complimented on the huge change she sees in me and knows that because of my attitude I will accomplish great things and handle stress so much easier than someone who is negative. What may seem a crappy situation to a negative person, they may feel like they are drowning. However to a positive person in the same crappy situation, they can see a way to stay afloat and know better things are to come. Me, well my analogy for my life right now is this: I feel like I am jumping out of an airplane. The "AHHH" when you first jump, is over and not so bad. Right now I am floating in the air sometimes going to the right, sometimes to the left. Every once in a while I feel like I am suddenly falling fast, but it goes away quickly and I am back to floating. What keeps me soaring is knowing that I will have a soft landing when it is my time to fall and I will fall slowly and safely. My therapist LOVES this analogy. I am surrounded by so many friends and family who support every decision I make. Whether they agree with me or not, it doesn't matter. They see me happy and staying positive and that is all that matters to them.
I could sit here and say that I apologize for annoying people with my positive outlook on life...but I am not. How can I be sorry for something that I am doing to better myself and the people around me? If you are annoyed, then you need to take a good hard look at yourself. Are you honestly happy? If you aren't, then change it. Do not take out your misery on someone who is happy. It will only bite you in the butt in the long run and cause you end up alone and more miserable than before. Embrace the happiness in others and be grateful for it. They may end up teaching you a valuable lesson.
I am thankful for:
my true friends who do not judge me or criticize me
my family for supporting every decision I make
those who consider me an inspiration to them
open mindedness
Goosfraba
being surrounded by only positive people
The Secret
my therapist
my positive attitude and outlook on life
faith
hope
forgiveness
love
appreciation
selflessness
the get-together with Jer and my families today
my neighbors
the health and happiness of my children, family and friends
all negativity being erased from me and my life
my health
my life
Monday, May 25, 2009
Sunday, May 24, 2009
The Joy Within
A quote from The Secret:
It is the joy within that creates a magnificent life on the outside. It doesn’t matter where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, or what is happening around you, you take the joy with you.
I kind of touched base on this last week. If we fill ourselves up with material things of course we feel instant joy. Did you ever notice how long it lasts? Not very long. When you are filled up with joy because of the people in your life, accomplishments you have made, and the feeling we get when we give to others, that is the true joy that lasts forever. Surround yourself with people you love, people that make you laugh, those who inspire you. Take a walk in nature and admire all that is there for YOU. Send an old friend a card, help someone load their groceries into their car, volunteer at a local shelter, even if it is only for a day. Be thankful for everything in your life. You will see a tremendous amount of things flow into your life that you have to be thankful for when you are showing gratitude. And, you will feel full of joy which will last you much longer than you can imagine. Because you are in joy, you will spread that to everyone around you.
I am so thankful that my sister-in-law passed The Secret on to me. I am even more thankful that Rhonda Bryne decided to take everything she had learned and everything she knew about The Secret and put it into a book to share with the world. I am thankful for each person who is featured in The Secret for sharing their own personal experiences as proof the The Secret is real. I am thankful that using The Secret has made my life so much more positive and so much more fulfilling. I am thankful for having an open mind and allowing myself to believe in The Secret despite what others may think or say. I am thankful for my angels who have guided me down the right path and have opened my eyes to a better future. I was meant to read this book and I was meant to put it into my life. It is working for me and I only hope that everyone around me allows me to inspire them to make the same positive changes that I have.
It is the joy within that creates a magnificent life on the outside. It doesn’t matter where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, or what is happening around you, you take the joy with you.
I kind of touched base on this last week. If we fill ourselves up with material things of course we feel instant joy. Did you ever notice how long it lasts? Not very long. When you are filled up with joy because of the people in your life, accomplishments you have made, and the feeling we get when we give to others, that is the true joy that lasts forever. Surround yourself with people you love, people that make you laugh, those who inspire you. Take a walk in nature and admire all that is there for YOU. Send an old friend a card, help someone load their groceries into their car, volunteer at a local shelter, even if it is only for a day. Be thankful for everything in your life. You will see a tremendous amount of things flow into your life that you have to be thankful for when you are showing gratitude. And, you will feel full of joy which will last you much longer than you can imagine. Because you are in joy, you will spread that to everyone around you.
I am so thankful that my sister-in-law passed The Secret on to me. I am even more thankful that Rhonda Bryne decided to take everything she had learned and everything she knew about The Secret and put it into a book to share with the world. I am thankful for each person who is featured in The Secret for sharing their own personal experiences as proof the The Secret is real. I am thankful that using The Secret has made my life so much more positive and so much more fulfilling. I am thankful for having an open mind and allowing myself to believe in The Secret despite what others may think or say. I am thankful for my angels who have guided me down the right path and have opened my eyes to a better future. I was meant to read this book and I was meant to put it into my life. It is working for me and I only hope that everyone around me allows me to inspire them to make the same positive changes that I have.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Life Has No Limitations
This has got to be one of my most favorite quotes:
Life has no limitations, except the ones you make. -Les Brown
How true is this? I remember as a child thinking, wow I have such a long life ahead of me, what am I going to choose to do with it? Now as an adult I realize that I still have a long life ahead of me and I have a lot of things I am going to do! Your life is limitless. You can do anything you want to do, you can be anything you want to be. If you are sick, you can be healthy, if you are poor, you can be rich. Do not put limits on yourself then sit there and pity yourself. If you are thinking that there is no way you can do something....then you are right. Tell yourself instead, that there is nothing you can't do. It is all in positive thinking that gets you to where you want to be. And remember the blog a few weeks ago.....key word.....BELIEVE. If you do not wholeheartedly believe, nothing will work for you. Start writing down the things you want or wish for. Write down your dream job, your dream vacation, details of your dream partner. If you believe that you deserve your dreams come true and focus on the fact that we have no limits...you will see amazing things happen! Good luck!
What I am thankful for today:
goals
dreams
the power to do anything
a warm sunny day today
getting a lot of things done today
laughter
love
creativity
my kids
my hair cut tomorrow
Makenna's smiles
Gavin's silliness
Jamie for letting me know that she is ALWAYS there and always making sure I am ok
Selflessness
long walks with Jenny (our therapy sessions LOL!)
Diane
all the people who uplift my spirit and continue to be an inspiration to me
Tricia for being one of the biggest inspirations to me with her courage and her strength.
the blooming flowers in my garden
family
friends
Life has no limitations, except the ones you make. -Les Brown
How true is this? I remember as a child thinking, wow I have such a long life ahead of me, what am I going to choose to do with it? Now as an adult I realize that I still have a long life ahead of me and I have a lot of things I am going to do! Your life is limitless. You can do anything you want to do, you can be anything you want to be. If you are sick, you can be healthy, if you are poor, you can be rich. Do not put limits on yourself then sit there and pity yourself. If you are thinking that there is no way you can do something....then you are right. Tell yourself instead, that there is nothing you can't do. It is all in positive thinking that gets you to where you want to be. And remember the blog a few weeks ago.....key word.....BELIEVE. If you do not wholeheartedly believe, nothing will work for you. Start writing down the things you want or wish for. Write down your dream job, your dream vacation, details of your dream partner. If you believe that you deserve your dreams come true and focus on the fact that we have no limits...you will see amazing things happen! Good luck!
What I am thankful for today:
goals
dreams
the power to do anything
a warm sunny day today
getting a lot of things done today
laughter
love
creativity
my kids
my hair cut tomorrow
Makenna's smiles
Gavin's silliness
Jamie for letting me know that she is ALWAYS there and always making sure I am ok
Selflessness
long walks with Jenny (our therapy sessions LOL!)
Diane
all the people who uplift my spirit and continue to be an inspiration to me
Tricia for being one of the biggest inspirations to me with her courage and her strength.
the blooming flowers in my garden
family
friends
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Stop and Smell the Roses
I played The Secret Memory Game this morning and this is what I got:
Remind your children constantly, through your words, that they are unlimited – that they can have anything, do anything, and be anything they want. Remind them to speak of what they want and to focus on that. When they say they don’t want something, ask them what they do want. Always bring them back to what they want. Embrace each of your children as the unique being that they are, and rejoice in their freedom to express themselves. Allow them to learn their own lessons, and know within yourself that everything is unfolding for them perfectly.
I love that there is a way that we can instill The Secret in our children. Of course they still need to learn the difference between material things fulfilling them verses what honestly gives inner happiness. We as adults need to show them the way. If we fill our lives up with material things thinking that those will keep us happy, our children will have the same beliefs. Our children need to see that it is the simple things in life is what matters. Ever hear the saying, stop and smell the roses? To me it means, take time to look around you and see all that is here for us. All that nature has to give and yet nature asks for nothing in return. Stop focusing on the every day stresses and realize that we are the ones who chose our lives to be as stressful as they are, whether it be by our choices or our attitude. Remember that children are little sponges and they feel and see everything that we do. Make it a goal to ask your children what they are grateful for so that they focus on the happy things in their lives. Let them know that they have a wonderful future in store for them and that you will be there for them every step of the way.
What I am thankful for today:
my children
their excitement over the little things in life
the ability to teach them that they are unlimited
my PartyLite show on Saturday
nature
happiness
dreams
goals
inspirational quotes
our freedom
each and every new day
Remind your children constantly, through your words, that they are unlimited – that they can have anything, do anything, and be anything they want. Remind them to speak of what they want and to focus on that. When they say they don’t want something, ask them what they do want. Always bring them back to what they want. Embrace each of your children as the unique being that they are, and rejoice in their freedom to express themselves. Allow them to learn their own lessons, and know within yourself that everything is unfolding for them perfectly.
I love that there is a way that we can instill The Secret in our children. Of course they still need to learn the difference between material things fulfilling them verses what honestly gives inner happiness. We as adults need to show them the way. If we fill our lives up with material things thinking that those will keep us happy, our children will have the same beliefs. Our children need to see that it is the simple things in life is what matters. Ever hear the saying, stop and smell the roses? To me it means, take time to look around you and see all that is here for us. All that nature has to give and yet nature asks for nothing in return. Stop focusing on the every day stresses and realize that we are the ones who chose our lives to be as stressful as they are, whether it be by our choices or our attitude. Remember that children are little sponges and they feel and see everything that we do. Make it a goal to ask your children what they are grateful for so that they focus on the happy things in their lives. Let them know that they have a wonderful future in store for them and that you will be there for them every step of the way.
What I am thankful for today:
my children
their excitement over the little things in life
the ability to teach them that they are unlimited
my PartyLite show on Saturday
nature
happiness
dreams
goals
inspirational quotes
our freedom
each and every new day
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