I feel pretty!

The other day at Kohl's with two of my friends, we were discussing The Secret. All three of us have read the book. Now we all know, us women that is, that trying on clothes is never fun when you are unhappy with your weight. So, I decided to walk around the store singing......"I feel pretty, oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty and GAY!" Before I knew it Rita was chiming in. In no time, we found a new outfit for Jenny to wear to work the next day in which she received a lot of compliments on! We wanted to turn this not so happy situation, into something fun and positive. From now on, I will sing that song when I get on a pair of pants that decide not to button or that have seemed to shrink A LOT! We need to be thankful for the body we have and ask the universe for a better one if we wish to be thinner, less wrinkled, or whatever. While we are waiting for our "new image" we need to think positive thoughts. Singing something silly took our minds off of the uncomfortableness of trying on clothes and not finding the right sizes. Try doing something funny when you are in this situation and feel how much better it makes you feel inside. And, if you ever hear someone in the store singing, "I feel pretty"...it is probably just me.

If you have seen the movie Anger Management, it makes singing this song
that much funnier. I highly suggest renting that movie if you are ever
in a bad mood.


At my store today I came up with an idea. Since my blogs, my poetry, positive emails and positive attitude seem to be flocking people my way, I have decided to have a special class at my store. For all of those who need help acquiring their dreams, I am hosting a class called Visualizing Your Dreams by Creating a Visual Board. This will be a 12x12 scrapbook page that will be in a frame for you to hang in your home or office. However, coming up with the pictures will be a task that you have to be willing to undertake. And, you will need them with you for the class. My visual board is hanging in the store. After researching online today I have been able to print out pictures of my dream car. my dream house, my dream pets, my dream Inn. Don't get me wrong, a 12x12 scrapbook page is not large enough to put everything I dream about on it. So, I went with the bigger things. The other things, I actually just wrote down. What this will do will help me to see all that I want in the future, feel how I would feel if I had these things now, and achieve them.

Funny thing is that I had a 'visual board' on my fridge 2 years ago. It had a picture of a dog, Disney World, a dream house, a dream car and an in ground pool. Without realizing it, I achieved my trip to Disney World and getting a dog, effortlessly in one year. And, this is after my husband insisted that we were not getting a dog nor would we have money for Disney. Did that make me give up.....no! Think about it, if we did not have dreams and goals, we would never have anything to look forward to! Besides life to me would be boring.

In my research of how The Secret works, I did realize that all of my 'don't wants' happened. When my husband and I were looking for a house I really didn't express what I wanted. I was much more focused on what I didn't want. I didn't want to live in town, I didn't want a small yard and I really really didn't want a twin. Guess what....I live in town, I hardly have a back yard and yes, it is a twin. Hmmmm, it is true that the universe only hears the word want. All of those don't wants, to the universe were actually wants. I had to learn the hard way. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate my home and the perks that it comes with. I have wonderful neighbors, I love that I can walk the kids to school....and work and that I have a big enough yard to have my gardens. However, my future home will be in the country with much bigger gardens and peacefulness that I do not have here at my current residence. I want to sit outside where it is quiet and admire my gardens and the sunset. I want my children to run around outside without worrying about the street. I want a pool that I can swim in naked if I want because my neighbors will be too far away to see me....LOL! Did you see what I am typing......all wants. I am going to eliminate don't from my vocabulary. You should consider that!

What I am thankful for today:
The gift of writing
My home
The use of Visual Boards
Funny movies
My dream car
My dream pets (Cavalier King Charles Spaniel named Belle and a Great Pyrenees...unsure of a name at this moment)
My dream house
Makenna being fully potty trianed!
The Secret

Remember when you are in that dressing room.......I feel pretty.....oh so pretty.....I feel pretty and witty and GAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!

Home is where the heart is..

I now fully understand the meaning of Home is where the Heart is....

Being with two of my best friends, at two separate times yesterday, I was completely amazed at how this came about.

Melinda was again telling me that her house is just a house, filled with her stuff. She does not consider it her home. She has expressed this in the past as well. She and Marty own a beautiful home. It has something like 5 bedrooms, 5 and a half bathrooms, a full finished basement, an in ground pool, and lots more. However inside, she is feeling stressed and empty. It made me realize that you can own your dream house and yet, you can still be miserable.

Marty on the other hand you can tell feels very full-filled. He told me yesterday that his home is where he can spend time with the ones who love him. Marty doesn't care if he lives in a trailer home as long as he is with his family.

I looked back at my divorce and remembered feeling the same way as Melinda and Marty. Like Melinda had mentioned, she would leave everything behind except her and the kids beds, a table, her pets, and all the sentimental things she has received over the years. She would leave most everything behind to feel happy again. That is exactly how I felt when I was in my last marriage. Melinda has other things that are stressing her out. Marty and Melinda's marriage has nothing to do with her stress. However, she is still feeling lost and out of place in her home.

When I left my house behind during my divorce, I took nothing but clothes for Gavin and I and my pets. I left everything else there. And, I seriously didn't care. Everything else was material and could be replaced. All I knew is that I was miserable and that I had to change things. My home was no longer a home to me. I can totally relate to what Melinda and Marty both feel.

Melinda feels that her house is not a reflection of who she is as a person. She also is so miserable in her home that her heart is not there.

Marty feels that home is where his loved ones are and would live anywhere they can be together.

I was lost in my previous marriage to the point of not caring that I left my home or the things that filled it. I now know that you can own your dream house and it is only a house if you are miserable inside yourself. I now know the importance of catering to YOU first and truly being happy inside and out. It is not a selfish act at all. You only have one chance at life, why would you not want nor deserve to be happy?

I realize the importance of being happy and full-filled before pursuing your dreams. Once you feel the happiness that you deserve, no matter where you live or what kind of house you own, your heart will be in the right place.

Too much to talk about....

There is so much I could write about tonight that I do not even know where to start. My first choice would be at how amazed I am at Makenna with this potty training. She went from wanting nothing to do with it to almost completely trained in one week. She is still in underwear for the 6th day in a row. She has only had two accidents. Makenna doesn't want us to put a diaper on her at night because she feels that she is now a big girl. Well, what we usually do is put a diaper on her once she is asleep. Last night I fell asleep before I had the chance to put one on her. At 3am she woke me up to tell me that she needed to use the potty. Of course at first I am thinking this is totally a dream when I realized that she seriously was not wearing a diaper. I ran her into the potty and she went. I was so excited that I almost could not go back to sleep! I am so proud of her.

The other day I called the Christ Lutheran Church on Main Street to find out the details of registering her in pre-school. Makenna and I are going to head to the school in a couple of weeks to check it out. I want her to be introduced to religion since we only get to church at the holidays. I am totally one who thinks that their children should be introduced to different aspects of religion and different beliefs. However, I am not going to push it on my children. I want them to make their own decisions on what they believe in when the time is right. I will support any decision they make. To me and Jer, this school sounds like a good one to get Makenna interested in learning not just academics but a little bit of religion as well.

The next thing I want to express is how much I cried today! Everyone who knows me, knows that my friends are one of the most important things in my life. I consider myself very loyal, very giving, very trust worthy.... an all around good friend. I went to Melinda's today so that the kids could play since there was no school. Melinda expressed her negative attitude and how much she does not like herself right now. Being one that hates to see my friends hurting, I could not help but to cry with her. I know how important it is to stay strong for people when they need it. It was so hard for me to keep my feelings aside this time. When I went to visit Marty, her husband, at his work (a print shop) to discuss a project for a customer of mine and a new sign for out front of my building, we of course got on the topic of Melinda. That is when I lost it. It was as if, I had an easier time not being strong in front of Marty. With Marty's help I am sure we can get Melinda on the right path to happiness once again. When I left Melinda's house I called my friend Jenny. Again, talking about Melinda I started to BALL! It is so true that when your friends hurt, you hurt. Marty has been living The Secret as long as I have known him. He is always positive, always grateful and always able to turn the crappiest situation around. I am so thankful that Melinda has him by her side and I am so grateful that I have him in my life. Melinda's life will turn around very soon....I can feel it.

I need to pat myself on the back for being able to celebrate my second week without my Zoloft. Can you believe that I am not bald? Can you believe that I haven't punched a wall yet? I am amazed myself. I put The Secret into affect by stating that I want to be healthy without my medication. I want to live a healthy life without it. So far, I have been feeling pretty good. I have had my meltdowns and my angry moments which are just that, moments. For the most part, I feel a lot better. I feel more alive and happier, with more energy.

Tonight I am thankful for:
Being able to be there for a friend
Makenna with her potty training
Friendly's
Marty for allowing me to cry on his shoulder and for his help with my store.

Melinda for just being herself.

Jenny and Rita for making me laugh tonight at Kohl's

My kids who crack me up singing to Nickleback in the car (don't worry I fast forward the inappropriate songs)

My new website

Smiles, Laughter and Love By Amy Musser

True love comes easy when you love truly.

Smiles surround you when you give them away.
Laughter enlightens a heavy heart
even in ones darkest of days.

Laugh, even at the small stuff
Smile at the ones who frown

Love with your entire heart and soul

and watch your life turn around.

Three things that come so easy

yet some find it hard to do.
So surround yourself with laughter and love

and truly feel it within you.

When you feel these things deep inside
you will be an inspiration a

positive influence, a guide.

To all of those who are lacking

smiles, love and laughter

you can show them the way to their dreams

and what they should go after.
Be thankful, be grateful,

be positive and be a giver

and you will be amazed at

what the universe will deliver.

Good kids

I was not going to blog tonight but here I am. I am coming off of a very busy weekend. My son had 5 guests sleep over in celebration of his birthday. I am thankful that the house is still standing and we actually got some sleep! The kids were very well behaved. I expected nothing less since we attract what we want according to The Secret. I have always wanted nothing more than positive influences on my children and in my home. All of their parents have done an excellent job in raising their kids. They all have manners, are polite, great with Makenna, respectful of our pets and of our home and they listen. I love my friends, and I love their kids.

I cannot believe that Gavin will be 9 on Tuesday. Where does the time go? It seems like just yesterday that I was rocking him back and forth to The Backstreet Boys to get him to stop screaming. For some reason, that group always soothed him. He also loved the song Slide from the Goo Goo Dolls. The Goo Goo Dolls will always continue to be one of my favorite groups. Funny how certain songs can take us back in time. Because of music, there are moments that I will never forget.

Because I am lacking sleep, I am going to get going. Here is what I am thankful for today:
Music
Time with my family last night
Time with Jenny last night
The card class today which was a big hit
My friends and their children
My children
My pets
Makenna in underwear for her 5th day in a row!!
My $881 PartyLite show that closed tonight!!
A new venture I am about to intake
Forgiveness